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A Strange Society

Things I don’t understand about our world:

How the media calls finding a baby alive in a coffin a “horrible mistake,” but at the same time praises a woman’s “right to choose.”

How doctors can be sued for incorrectly pronouncing a baby as dead, but be paid huge sums of money for aborting other babies.

How the ultrasound of a “wanted” baby makes people say “oh, how cute” and an “unwanted” baby makes people say “oh, what a mistake.”

 

Interview with Della Loredo, author of The Race

Tell me about your book, The Race. How did you come up with the idea?

The Race is the story of a 22-year-old who runs a 6,000-mile footrace. I got the idea from Scripture, which compares the Christian life to running in several places. The thought of expanding that metaphor into a novel first occurred to me years ago—I mean, like 20 years or more. It’s just such an apt metaphor that expanding it seemed like a no-brainer. But I never intended to write that book; I hadn’t studied writing, and my life was already pretty jam-packed. Nevertheless, God had other plans. Years later, when the circumstances of my life had changed, a friend issued a challenge, and the Lord showed me how this metaphor was perfectly suited to address the issues he had raised.

What is the biggest lesson that God has taught you through writing this book?

He’s taught me a number of things and reminded me of many more, so picking the “biggest” is hard. But I can tell you the last lesson He taught me. There’s a line in the book where Josh (the character who represents Jesus) says to the main character, who’s climbing a mountain just then: “I anchor all your lines, kid.” For a long time I didn’t get this. In fact, I tried deleting it a few times, thinking it was just unnecessary fluff. (But Josh, in the inexplicable way that fictional characters have of doing this, insisted on saying it.) It wasn’t until I was attempting to set up a website that I understood it. Mind you, this was a task that I knew nothing about and in an area that I have a history of messing up (as far as I can tell, computer “logic” is entirely illogical). So I was feeling very out of my element and afraid I would mess something up forever.

At that point the Lord leaned over my shoulder and said, “Don’t worry—I anchor all your lines, kid.” That’s when I realized what that line meant spiritually: no matter what project I’m tackling, even if it’s something I know nothing about, He knows everything about it and can, therefore, anchor the safety lines that will keep me from serious mishap. It’s a truth I know intellectually and have no trouble applying … to most areas of my life. I didn’t even realize how my reticence to take on a task that He was so clearly calling me to was, in fact, a lack of faith.

Tell me a little bit about your journey to becoming an author.

I have always loved reading, and that passion morphed into a love for writing early on. I began writing plays in elementary school; I was in sixth grade when the first was performed on stage. However, my goal, even then, was to become a physician, so I set aside my love for writing when I dove into the hectic schedule of pre-med and med school. And then came marriage and kids and … Well, it wasn’t until I contracted viral encephalitis (an infection of the brain transmitted by mosquito bites) and became unable to practice medicine that I could again indulge my old love of writing. I began by reading books about the specific principles and techniques of good writing, and I also took a few online writing courses. I also got involved with some great critique partners who helped me hone the skills I was learning (still am). Then I wrote a lot, read a lot, and wrote some more.

Aren’t you disappointed about not being able to practice medicine anymore?

No. There are times I miss it, for sure. And I won’t pretend that there haven’t been times when I’ve felt disappointed that God didn’t work things out differently. Yet now, as I look back on what He’s done through that mosquito bite, on the work He’s allowed me to participate in as a result, I can truly say that I wouldn’t have it any other way. I would never have had the time to write while practicing medicine. And I’ve been able to touch the lives of people I would never have met otherwise.

What’s a typical working day like for you? When and where do you write? Do you set a daily writing goal?

I’ve actually had to learn to not hold myself to a schedule. At this point, my writing schedule revolves around my headache to a considerable degree (I’ve had a permanent headache since the encephalitis 11 years ago, but the severity isn’t necessarily predictable), and putting myself under deadline pressures, whether real or invented, only makes the headache worse. I think this is something God’s using to transform me into an obedient servant—submissive to His will and listening for His voice. I’ve always been very big on scheduling and planning; so much so that it really became a sort of idol for me. Now the Father’s teaching me to look to Him for my daily marching orders. I know this goes against the usual wisdom of setting daily writing goals, finding your rhythm, and following regular schedules. Those recommendations are probably great for most people, but I’ve had to kick the habit.

On the other hand, the “where” of writing is very important in my process. I have to be in a quiet, well-organized place to do any meaningful writing or editing. If things around me are a mess, I can’t concentrate on my story world until I organize my real world (so I make a habit of keeping the real world of my study in order). I also try to minimize interruptions when I’m writing since I easily lose my train of thought. This may mean closing the door of my study, putting in earplugs, letting the machine answer the phone, or even waiting until the rest of the world is asleep.

As a new author, what is the hardest part of writing for you?

The business part, especially sales and marketing. This feels too much like it’s about me when it should be about Him. If I had it to do over, I might seriously consider changing my name to Anonymous. I could promote the book with much more enthusiasm if it didn’t have my name in great big letters on the front cover.

What are you working on now?

I am currently polishing the second book in the Race trilogy and finishing the first draft of the third book. That and trying to figure out this whole website/blog/social media/ugh! business. (I’m not a technophobe, just a techno-dummie.)

What’s the best thing about being an author?

I enjoy the whole writing experience. I love the creative side: inventing a new story world, getting to know the characters, dreaming up situations and problems, and seeing how it all plays out. I love the editing (even if that puts me on the list of the world’s strangest people), which I see as something akin to sculpting with words: adding a detail here, filing off a distracting bit there, and so forth.

But the most amazing part of being an author, at least for me, is what comes after the book or article is done: seeing the way the Holy Spirit is able to use my humble words in the lives of real people. I was blown away the day I received the publisher’s e-mail informing me of their readers’ reactions to the book. God was using it to literally change people’s lives for eternity, to change their perception of and relationship to Him! I sat there crying for joy as I read those statements, in the same way that I have sometimes cried at births. And it felt much the same, as though I was helping to bring new lives—God’s children—into the world.

What advice would you give aspiring writers?

Read. Write. Rinse. Repeat.

Oh—and remember why you’re writing. I have my writing motto posted on an index card above my desk: “I am writing that they may believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God, and that by believing they may have life in his name (John 20:31, paraphrased).”

 

      Click here to read the first chapter of The Race

Am I Doing Enough?

I sponsor a child through Compassion ministry. Her name is Christine and she’s a beautiful twelve-year-old girl from Uganda. One of the program facilitators from Uganda sent out a letter to all the supporters about the area where Christine lives. Here’s what part of the letter said:


            Though this area very much needs the rain for crops and such, it often causes outbreaks of malaria and cholera because there is poor sanitation and so much waste. I get very sad because there are so many families that can’t even afford clean water and their home.

            Many children are familiar with alcoholism among the adults in the community and absent fathers. They don’t know what it means to feel special. Many of the girls in this area marry young because their parents simply can’t afford to feed or take care of them. I’ve seen girls as young as 13 have children of their own.

Cholera.

Clean water.

Marrying at thirteen because your parents can’t afford to keep you.

 

Can you imagine having to live in conditions like that? It’s unbelievable that so many people have to worry about if they will even have anything to eat the next day. What a contrast to my life—my biggest worry is if a zit suddenly appears or if traffic is bad when I get off of work.

 

 After I read the project facilitator’s letter, I felt so guilty.

Am I doing enough?

Am I caring enough?

Am I praying enough?

 

How many times do I take my thoughts off of myself and think of those less fortunate?

How many times do I deny myself to help others—you know, say “no” to my Starbucks drink and donate the money to starving orphans?

How many times do I pray not just that I will have a blessed day, but for the well-being and salvation of those worldwide?

 

Dear Lord,

Please teach me to be grateful. Teach me to be responsible. Show me how I can bless others—both near and far away.

 

Amen. 

Kirk Cameron and Tolerance

It’s interesting that my last post was about tolerance and just last week we had a wonderful current example of a celebrity figure practicing biblical tolerance. Here is some of what Kirk Cameron said during an interview on the Piers Morgan show when Piers Morgan asked Cameron what he’d tell his kids about gay marriage.

Cameron responded, “I’d tell my children what I believe myself…I believe that marriage was defined by God a long time ago. Marriage is almost as old as dirt and it was defined in the garden between Adam and Eve. One man, one woman for life till death do you part. I would never attempt to try to redefine marriage, and I don’t think anyone else should, either. So do I support the idea of gay marriage? No, I don’t.”

Morgan then inquired whether Cameron thinks homosexuality is a sin, and the actor replied, “I think that it’s unnatural, that it’s detrimental, and ultimately destructive to so many of the foundations of civilization.”

Naturally, his comment caused quite a stir in our “tolerant” free-speech society. Here is Cameron’s response to the backlash:

 The only way to properly answer these kind of questions is to begin the discussion with another question: Is life and sexuality sacred or are they not? If they are, then God has something to say about these things. If not, then everyone is entitled to their own opinion on the matter.

I believe that freedom of speech and freedom of religion go hand-in-hand in America. I should be able to express moral views on social issues – especially those that have been the underpinning of Western civilization for 2,000 years – without being slandered, accused of hate speech and told from those who preach ‘tolerance’ that I need to either bend my beliefs to their moral standards or be silent when I’m in the public square.

In any society that is governed by the rule of law, some form of morality is always imposed. It’s inescapable. But it is also a complicated subject, and that is why I believe we need to learn how to debate these things with greater love and respect.

Praise God for men who stand for God’s word and practice biblical tolerance! Preach Truth in Love.

From My Bookshelf

Tolerance. A word of many meanings. Co-authors Josh McDowell and Bob Hostetler define it well in their book. They share that tolerance today has a very different meaning than in did years ago. They call today’s tolerance the “new tolerance,” which is also the title of their book. I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book and found it interesting that this book was written over ten years ago, warning of how tolerance would destroy our society, and now we are experiencing much of what they predicted. Here are some of my favorite quotes found in the book:

“But Eve decided that wasn’t good enough for her. Enticed by the serpent, she determined that she wasn’t going to let God tell her what was good and what was bad; she would make that decision herself … As Christian apologist and author Ravi Zacharias points out, when she and her husband ‘questioned the reality of His voice and supplanted it with their own authority, they made themselves the measure of all things.’ They set themselves up in God’s place and took something that belonged only to God: the power to decide what is good and what is evil.”

“If there is no absolute moral standard, then one cannot say in a final sense that anything is right or wrong. By absolute we mean that which always applies [to all people], that which provides a final or ultimate standard. There must be an absolute if ther eare to be morals, and there must be an absolute if there are to be real values. If there is no absolute beyond man’s ideas, then there is no final appeal to judge between individuals and groups whose moral judgments conflict. We are merely left with conflicting opinions.” -Dr. Francis Shaeffer

Tolerance says, “You must approve of what I do.” Love responds, “I must do something harder; I will love you, even when your behavior offends me.

Tolerance says, “You must allow me to have my way.” Love responds, “I must do something harder; I will plead with you to follow the right way, because I believe you are worth the risk.”

Tolerance seeks to be inoffensive; love takes risks. Tolerance is indifferent; love is active. Tolerance costs nothing; love costs everything. – Josh McDowell and Bob Hostetler

 

Introducing…

Many of you have asked for more information about my videographers. So, I wanted to introduce you to them briefly. (to watch the video go to my video page).

Last month, a friend introduced me to Chantillie Cabrera, a wonderful young Christian woman gifted in film. In 2005 she and her family founded Badcab productions, a family owned and operated video production and media service. Their slogan is “Taking Every Moment Captive.”

Chantillie wears many hats, in addition to co-founder she is the the producer and editor. Working with Chantillie and her family was a wonderful experience! They are professional, punctual, and keep the recording environment pleasant and fun. I hope to have the opportunity to collaborate with them again! It is so encouraging to see a Christian family in the arts and entertainment industry. Visit Badcab productions website for more info

Some shots from the shoot.

They are also wonderful photographers! All of these photos were taken by the Cabrera sisters.

More than a sleeve

I’m currently reading Passion and Purity by Elisabeth Elliot (again!). I’ve read this book several times. I love how it is saturated in Scripture and provoking thoughts and has plenty of examples of how to live set apart for Christ.

Here is one nugget of wisdom she shares in her book:

My little niece Gallaudet Howard taught me something important when she was about three years old. Seeing that she was having difficulty with the sleeves, I asked her if I could help her put her dress on. “Oh, never mind,” she said. “Papa usually lets me struggle.” What kind of father is that? A wise one. Her father, my brother Tom, is also a very sensitive one, aware of the importance of struggle in the process of growth.

I found in my Greek New Testament that 1 Peter 5:10 could be translated, “After you have suffered for a while, he himself will mend that which was broken.” If all struggles and sufferings were eliminated, the spirit would no more reach maturity than would the child. The Heavenly Father wants to see us grow up.

That passage really made me think: Am I maturing through my struggles? Am I allowing God to work in me and mold me more into His image?

“This will continue until we all come to such unity in our faith and knowledge of God’s Son that we will be mature in the Lord, measuring up to the full and complete standard of Christ.” (Ephesians 4:13)

Fearless

Fearless…

No, I’m not talking about Taylor Swift :)

Far from it.

I just wanted to take a minute to comment on a fearless leader.

Fearless means unafraid, bold, brave, courageous, dauntless … and all of these words describe Pastor Voddie Baucham. He’s long been known for his dedication and obedience to God’s word, even when it means going against the cultural grain. A few days ago, he did something that most pastors would never dream of doing. He wrote a blog post on politics.

I respect him for doing this. I’ve always felt like it was a major no-no for anyone in ministry to talk about politics (could risk your popularity), but never felt like it was right. So, I am glad that Pastor Baucham broke this unspoken Christian ministry taboo and shared his opinion.

I’m glad that he makes it clear that his hope is not in politics or candidates, but in Christ. And I’m glad that he is transparent enough to let us into his reasoning of who he is voting for and why. More Christians should speak up. Not forcibly, but transparently.

We need more fearless Christian leaders. Men not swayed by cultural Christianity or man’s opinion, but only concerned with God’s opinion.

 

Want to read Pastor Baucham’s blog? Click here.

Considering Careers Before Spending 100K

A week after graduation, Laura was hauling her luggage back up to her bedroom at her parent’s house. Everything was just as she had left it before leaving for college. She surveyed the room with a sigh. She was happy to be home, but not too pleased about her professional direction. She wished that, before she had headed off to school for five years, someone had sat her down and told her that graduation is not synonymous with career direction.

Now Laura had her degree, but she still didn’t know what she wanted to be when she grew up. Everyone had encouraged her to “find herself” and “discover her passion” in college, but that led her in circles—trying class after class, searching for her niche.

She had started out in pre-med, wanting to be a sports medicine doctor. But once she reached organic chemistry, she decided that wasn’t for her. Then she switched to exercise physiology, figuring she could still work with athletes that way. But that too, didn’t seem quite right … a bit too demanding on her social life. So, she changed to pre-law—thinking she could be an attorney for athletes. However, she had trouble keeping up with all the writing. She finally settled on a sociology degree, hoping the right career path would fall into her lap before she graduated.

Well, here she was, five years and one diploma later and she still had no idea what career to pursue. What could she do with a degree in sociology, anyway?

Needing money to pay off her student loans, Laura applied for a department store job. After a few months of working there, she decided she wanted to go into business management like her dad. So, she deferred her loans (by taking out more) and went to graduate school to get a masters degree in something she could actually use.

Does this sound familiar?

Too many of us are jobless, directionless, with the wrong degree, and in thousands of dollars of debt.

The Scriptures encourage us, as Christians, to be good stewards. “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much. So if you have not been trustworthy in handling worldly wealth, who will trust you with true riches? And if you have not been trustworthy with someone else’s property, who will give you property of your own?” (Luke 16:10-12, NIV)

Jesus calls us to be good stewards of our (and our parents’) money. College prices have skyrocketed! In just the last year, public in-state tuition increased 8.3 percent and private tuition increased 4.5 percent.[i] While housing prices have gone down, the cost of education has continued to rise. Although college dropouts like Bill Gates and Steve Jobs illustrate that college degrees are not necessary for success, the truth is, unless you’re going to start your own business, you probably need a degree. Most prospective employers today won’t even look at your resume if you don’t have a degree listed.

College is one of the largest investments we will ever make. So how can we make wise decisions about our education while being good stewards of our finances and time?

To read the rest of this article on Crosswalk click here

Lessons from Memories

Last week I said goodbye to my dog of thirteen years, Oreo. Some of you may be familiar with him from my writings. He was a wonderful dog—sweet, funny, and playful. I miss his big brown eyes and giant-always-wagging tail that so often knocked things (or small children) over.

I miss him.

I look out the windows into the backyard in search of his shiny black coat.

I listen for his bark.

I wish I could pat his head once more.

I still even look out for doggie bombs as I walk across the backyard.

I think of our walks.

I chuckle as I remember how much he hated his baths.

 

Losing Oreo made me realize that it’s the little things that build relationships. All of those unimportant moments add up to something significant. If this is true of a friendship with a pet, how much more applicable is this truth to family relationships?

It’s easy to take time spent with your family for granted

 

Ecclesiastes says there is a time for everything.

This holiday season remember to treasure each moment. Whether it’s something routine or spontaneous, treasure it.

 Capture it.

 Cherish it.